A year for retooling


Hoping to make some changes around here this year! I’ve been pretty busy tweeting and posting things on Facebook so this has somewhat fallen by the wayside. Also I’m occasionally co-hosting Life on the Swingset so check those out on the media page.

But, this year my focus is going to be on figuring out a real direction that I want to go in other than casual blogger. I’m feeling a passion for making this more than a hobby and into something I can at least start making a job out of. I’m still super torn on what I actually want to do with the pile of things I know and like to share and what form that will take. But figuring that out as well as the business side of how to make that actually happen is my intention for the year.

So if anyone has recommendations for mentorship things, business development opportunities, and even useful certifications to study for, all are welcome! But I feel like I’ll hopefully see my fellow educators out there more this year and get those connections ๐Ÿ˜€

As for the educating, check out @misterpent on twitter or facebook.com/misterpent for my regular updates until I figure out where this site is going to fit into all of the next phase! Oh and subscribe to Life on the Swingset the podcast while you’re at it ๐Ÿ˜‰

Signal Boost: The Best Sex-Trafficking Narrative Deconstruction


I’m absolutely floored by how detailed and methodical this piece is in taking apart the media/hollywood/law enforcement narrative around sex-trafficking and how it is intended to hurt sex workers who do it of their own choice. I could quote and talk about it but it’s rather lengthy so I rather you go read that:

The Truth About the Biggest U.S. Sex Trafficking Story of the Year

Saran Wrap Dental Dams


You know what’s great that it exists for safe mouth on genital sex? Dental dams.

You know what is terribly engineered and mostly useless for safer sex? Dental dams.

Aside from being incredibly hard to find out in the world, they’re just a massive pain in the ass to use. Made from a super thin rubber, they’re incredibly light, which becomes a problem when you want them to stay in one place. Not just on a body, but also when you want them to not stick to your face with every breath you take.


Mmm Black Cola

SO, guess what? I know of something you can get at pretty much any store, is made to stick to itself and things to wrap them nicely, and tastes/smells like nothing!

Yeah, you read the title already, it’s Saran Wrap.

But it’s not FDA approved. So what’s a sex educator to do? Well, luckily these two adorkable human beings did some pretty convincing tests as to if it’s safe for preventing STI transmission:

Good enough for me!

I’ve even used saran wrap for someone riding my face and it stayed in place and worked fantastically (protip: throw some lube on your partner’s genitals before applying the wrap). Whereas with the dam it would have been basically me breathing the dam and them trying to follow it around my face as it blew around. So pick yourself up a nice box of saran wrap, preferably with a cutter built-in for easy use!

Full Disclosure


… Not what you were expecting?

No, this is just a podcast update! I’ve been on Full Disclosure with Eric Barry a few times lately and wanted to plug that. There was my first appearance (http://www.fdpod.com/podcasts/fd-158-internet-privacy-hacking-with-mr-pent/), followed by two more so far (the latest being this week’s).

It’s been a blast recording with him and his crew. And hopefully I can bring more news of other podcast sightings as well ๐Ÿ™‚

Finding My Footing At CatalystCon


Long, long ago in a city far, far away…

Oh yeah, so I went to CatalystCon West in September. This was my 2.5th Catalyst (only partially counting East where I was so sick I only made it to half of the talks and nothing else).

So aside from starting to get a more confident footing at this conference and not being there with the large crew I had been with in the past, I told myself that I’d get out of my comfort zone and do more with my weekend. It really worked out well I’m happy to say.
My other big goal was to survive/succeed at my first time speaking at ANY conference!

I guess I’ll run through some highlights in no particular order then:

The biggest moment obviously, was the panel I was on (you can find the audio on the GentlePerverts Social Club Episode #7)
Despite some serious anxiety running up to it and a lack of sleep, it went surprisingly well! I had only done a couple of podcasts with the lovely crew
but we gelled quite well. And I think it was not only informative but hopefully a bit fun too.
I’m happy to say we will be reprising my role on the panelย at the next Catalyst Midwest!

Another big moment was finally pinning Reid Mihalko down for a few minutes to do a quick interview on his origins for GPSC (see Episode #7 linked above)! That was really fun and he’s always an awesome person to chat with.
Speaking of Reid, the networking event that he ran easily eclipsed any that I’d been to at a professional event, ever. It was made into a sort of game but it really made me not only synthesize my self promotion down to a brief, digestable few sentences, but got me talking to a lot more people than I would have gone up to on my own.
I can’t wait to see all of these new people more…

I also met the lovely Erin Kennedy and found out all about her ventures and path that brought her to Catalyst. Definitely check out her site, sexfortherest.com!
And thanks to meeting Erin, she gave me the heads up and a group of us found ourselves at Bawdy Storytelling on Sunday night! I had heard clips from the RISK! podcast many times and really wanted to see it. I was pumped Dixie was doing one in LA after the end of the conference.

Oh and it goes without saying that a weekend full of sex educators may have included some sexy times, too…

In the end, I was very glad that I spent the extra night on Sunday to decompress with people. It’s a really emotionally and socially intense weekend and that time to be more relaxed around friends is a great way to prepare going back into the post-con world.

I’ve mentioned that my goal was to get a better vibe of the direction I wanted to go in the educator realm. I had been somewhat seriously looking at MPH and Sex Therapist programs/routes but the Sex Educator Bootcamp with Tristan Taromino really opened my mind in terms of going my own route. I’ve settled on bulking up on some small bits of education while I relaunch my site with a new direction soon. Depending on how that goes, I’ll consider a masters program further down the line…

Anyway, Catalyst Con is coming to Chicago in April! I’m trying my best to get everyone I know who is local to check it out…not just to see me but also to see all of the other awesome panels and meet some great educators.

Slapping my own wrists – BAD BLOGGER!


Oh hey, it’s me, remember me?

Fuck I’ve been slacking. I’ve been busy though. This summer featured some play parties, a trip to Catalyst Con west, speaking on a panel, several podcasts including interviewing my role model, Reid Mihalko…it’s been great! Oh except for that coming out part, that wasn’t so great.

So I’m hoping to really get this thing moving again. I got really excited after all the amazing people I met at Catalyst and had wonderful experiences and conversations leave a real imprint on me. I can’t wait to push forward with some school and developing a business plan and other exciting things.

Except, work.

I realize that I need to really keep myself moving along in my day job and coming up on my four year anniversary, it’s time to get some new education under my belt. I told myself that I’m going to take and (hopefully) pass an exam I scheduled for this Wednesday. Then I will allow myself to focus on some sex educator activities.

So I’ll hopefully be checking back in with more writing soon!

The Gentleperverts Social Club Podcast


JUST plugging it!

I was a guest in a segment on episode 1 where Dylan and I discussed his loss of his father and his coming out to his mother and episode 4 where several of us discussed the intersections of kink, poly, and swinging as well as the upcoming episode (6?) where we discuss…intent…and cats…or however the episode ends up being edited, perhaps both!

Fun stuff, great crew making appearances on it, and a wide variety of topics.

Think of Dylan Thomas as your Ira Glass of sexiness.