Why I Ditched Tumblr for WordPress

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So Yahoo bought tumblr recently. And boy howdy did that bring some trouble with it..

After promising they wouldn’t touch all of the adult content on tumblr and people would be free to continue posting all the sexy things they wanted, the other shoe dropped. Tumblr started filtering all of the porn AND adult (mature topics but not porn) blogs out of their searches. To make it even worse, they tweaked the robots.txt (a file that tells what search engines can index) to not let any of these blogs be indexed by search engines either!

After a few weeks of outrage, Yahoo backtracked on their decision. But the damage was done. I’m not sure if I read it somewhere or heard it on the This Week in Tech (TWiT) podcast, but tumblr traffic is on a steady decline since the Yahoo purchase. People don’t trust them anymore.

Well, and let’s face it, aside from just re-sharing other people’s stuff, it’s a pretty piss poor blogging platform.

Now where’s my stats page? :3

FRIENDS with benefits

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So this started as a discussion with a friend yesterday and came up with another today. We’re all very frustrated with the bastardization of the term “friends with benefits”.

To me, the term evokes a friendship where you are actually friends, you talk, you hang out, you go places, grab food and drinks, etc. And oh yeah, sometimes you have fun and fuck. But the relationship revolves around a friendship and the fucking is just an occasional icing on the cake.

HOWEVER. It has been abused by people who use it interchangably with “fuck buddies” and “booty calls”. The problem is, fuck buddies, they may get along, but their relationship purely revolves around fucking. This is fine for certain circumstances, but is NOT friends with benefits and should not be treated as such. And booty calls gets into a depth of possibly one-sided and weird emotional or abusive crap that could be a note on its own.

But please people, can we have some honesty about what we call our arrangements? If you’re just hooking up, great, have fun, but don’t call it friends with benefits.

I, on the other hand, will seek people who understand the proper meaning of FRIENDS with benefits and see that as a positive and enjoyable arrangement.

The campsite rule

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Dan Savage has coined this to mean if you are in a relationship with an age disparity, to mean you (the elder) should leave the younger person better than you found them.
But I don’t see why this shouldn’t be applicable for all relationships! There doesn’t have to be an age disparity for a partner to be able to learn and grow from experiences with the other. And I think it takes awhile after the pain of a breakup to see this. But if the person does see it, it can many times open the door a crack for a possible friendship.

So, let’s expand the campsite rule to all relationships.